it was such a moving book, I was in tears when he died. And got so angry with the teacher when Alba wanted to go see her dead dad and the silly bureaucrat nearly stopped her!

Well what can I say, this book literally tore my heart out emotionally. I've just stopped crying after 30 minutes of 'I love you's' and 'don't leave me's', in my husband's arms.

This book struck a million cords with me ... I loved the way Henry and Clare spoke to each other and how they felt about each other "I hate to be where she is not, when she is not. And yet, I am always going, and she cannot follow." (Henry). I loved the way they made love (there have been few occasions where the thought of a 41 year old man and 18 year old woman making love has not made me feel queasy, this was one of them). I love the moment when Alba is conceived (the three in bed scenario!) when he says 'in this moment I love her more than life'. I love when they find their perfect lottery-funded house and Clare describes that she feels 'that we have found our home'. I felt so sad at the description of Henry's loss and then of Clare's loss of their Mothers. My first tears came after Henry first sees Alba as a 10 year old ... he hears that he is dead in 'real time' and tries to get to Clare, but it's too late. From that point on I was pretty much an emotional wreck.

I felt the characters were so real, I cared for them and therefore I cared for their loss.

I loved that she was waiting for him, always ... even as an 82 year old woman, and that he was always wanting to be back in her arms. I loved the way he watched her and just adored her in every way.

Finally, I liked the way Audrey Niffenegger ended her acknowlegements 'I waited for you, and now you're here'.

A wonderful, wonderful, heart-breaking book.

Although I didn't cry the main parts I found upsetting were... Henry knowing when he was going to die, especially the night of the party when he spoke to Gomez, thought that moment between the two men was lovely and something I'll never forget!
I also got very upset when Clare kept having miscarriages and I really empathised with her situation.
The one thing I feel I would have liked to know more about (and I know I'm not alone here) is how did Alba deal with the time travel as she grew up? Was she cured or did she even want to be cured? As the author did not write an epilogue, I'm hoping for a sequel!

why was Henry unable to time travel from when Clare was 18 (when she lost her virginity) to when she was 20 and met Henry in the library ... have I missed the very obvious answer to this question?!

he worked out when he would/had time travelled and drew up that list.

I understood that he couldn't choose where and when he travelled to? Maybe I'm wrong?

You're right Mel and I think Glynis has it too. Only Alba could kinda choose where she wanted to go.

I always thought it was a bit strange that when she did meet him in the library that day he seemed pretty clueless and you'd think if he's been time travelling since a young age he'd have realised that events like meeting Alba when he was with Ingrid and Clare knowing who he was would have something to do with time travelling.

When Henry meets Clare in the library he is actually meeting her for the first time because all the occasions he time-travelled to her childhood hadn't happened yet - they happen later on in HIS life - that is why he doesn't recognise her.